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My baby smokes! What can I do?

My baby smokes! What can I do?

Question:

- Our 11-year-old boy admitted to smoking when my husband caught him smoking in secret. He is quite young and we don't know how to make him stop smoking. I mention that my husband smokes from time to time, but on the balcony. What could we do?

Answer:

A first step in getting your child to quit smoking is to find out what the causes of consumption are. Simply stated why you smoke, what were the circumstances in which you started smoking, what does it feel like when you smoke and other information that would be useful to make you a clearer picture of the situation.

A first step in getting your child to quit smoking is to find out what the causes of consumption are. Simply stated why you smoke, what were the circumstances in which you started smoking, what does it feel like when you smoke and other information that would be useful to make you a clearer picture of the situation.
If your child smokes to lessen or suppress certain emotional experiences (eg, nervousness, shame, anger, etc.) it is necessary to discover them and help him / her to discover another way to satisfy these needs.
A simple quit smoking without solving the emotional problems you face is not welcome. Also investigate this area taking into account aspects such as similar behaviors to his close friends, smoking can be a way of belonging to the group.


Do an analysis of family relationships, the relationships between you and the child, because a child who feels neglected can resort to smoking or other vices, to trigger an alarm signal, smoking becoming a "shout," a way to attract attention. Another root cause in family relationships may be in the form of a hyper-critical attitude towards the child, so that the child feels worthless in the eyes of the parents and unappreciated.

Explain to your child the consequences of smoking!

A second thing you as a parent can do is explain to your child what the consequences of smoking are. By consulting some specialized materials you can give the child examples of negative consequences in the health field, otherwise well-known, or of financial consequences (the savings achieved by giving up smoking that can be used for other purposes). Because you say that your spouse is smoking maybe it is time for him or her to become a positive role model in your attempt to get the child to smoke.
In quitting smoking it is imperative to convince the child of the necessity of this fact, so the prohibitions or punishments administered in this regard may be unnecessary. Adopting an open and supportive attitude towards the child, the use of arguments in your efforts to persuade him to quit smoking thus become the most appropriate tools. You must also consider the period of use of tobacco, because the installation of physical and mental dependence can make it difficult to quit smoking.
Thus, armed with patience, arguments and examples, you can have a serious discussion with your son in which each one will openly express their views, fears and feelings.
Good luck!